We’re officially halfway into the first month of 2020! Woo hoo!! Now is the time to start planning for how to make the best of this year, and it’s also a good time to reflect on the previous year. You with me? Let’s get right into it and talk about the five most important lessons I’ve learned in 2019.
1. Your mental health is more important than anything else.
I’ve had to say no to several things last year because I wasn’t in the right state of mind. I called it “taking a mental health day” where I did the things that relaxed and calmed me. This means that I had to let people down – something that I really struggled with and continue to struggle with today – but it had to be done so that I can take care of me first. Remember, how can you do your best for other people when you haven’t taken care of yourself first? You can’t possibly give your all to everyone else when you haven’t dedicated the proper time to yourself yet.
2. What you put into your body has a direct impact on your mood.
I gave up sugar in March 2019 when I was diagnosed with prediabetes, and when I stopped, I stopped cold turkey. In the first couple weeks, I found myself being very irritable and cranky. Then, all of a sudden, I felt like I had more energy in the mornings, and it didn’t take me 10 minutes to just get out of bed. Then, I started eating breakfast every morning, and I felt so much happier throughout the day. Cutting out sodas and sweets was quite difficult at first, but I felt so much better once I continued to stick to it.
3. Sometimes, you need to seek help from professionals.
In 2019, I went to premarital counseling, individual counseling, financial counseling, and I met with a nutritionist regularly. Taking these steps last year were some of the best decisions I’ve made because it allowed me to soak up a lot of knowledge from professionals that I can use to better my life and the lives of my loved ones. I’m living a better life both mentally and physically from these meetings, and it has encouraged me to continue asking for help when I need it. These people are here to help you, not to judge you. There’s no shame in asking for help.
4. Every time you get a check or come across some money, you should put at least 30% of it into some sort of savings.
You never know what can happen, so I learned that it is super important to have some money stashed away! Already have a savings account for emergencies? Great! Now it’s time to save up for that vacation you always planned to take or that car you always wanted to buy. Either way, it’s crucial to have money tucked away so that you can get yourself out of a jam or reward yourself for all of your hard work.
5. There’s a lesson in everything you do.
For every mistake you make and for every blessing you’ve received, there’s a lesson in there somewhere. Always ask yourself, “How can I be better?” “What steps did I take to get here?” “What did this teach me?” Keep in mind that you are your greatest teacher, and no one can teach you more about yourself than you.
The best way to move forward and better your future is to reflect on your past. So, now that we’ve discussed them all, I want to know what you think is the most important lesson of 2019 — take the poll below! Start thinking about what you learned last year so that we can have a great 2020!
“You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don’t try to forget the mistakes, but you don’t dwell on it. You don’t let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space.” — Johnny Cash